Marriages can end for many reasons, which could be as simple as growing apart and mutually deciding to go your separate ways. However, ending a marriage over infidelity can be quite a stressful situation. You may be choosing to ending the marriage while your unfaithful spouse wants to work things out, and just wanting to leave the marriage for your own mental health. Here is what you should know when infidelity is the reason behind your marriage ending.
Use Professional Help Whenever Possible
It's very possible that your mind is not in the right place when you are deciding to end the marriage. It's likely something that you did not see happening when you first got married, and now the whole experience is quite painful to you. Having a lawyer on your side to help navigate the legal aspects of the divorce can help take one thing off your plate so that you do not have to worry about making any mistakes.
Avoid Talking About The Infidelity
If you are positive that you want to more forward with ending the marriage due to your spouse's infidelity, it will help you avoid bringing the topic up in the future when possible. Your spouse may want to apologize for their actions and take responsibility, but you must realize that it is not going to change your mind about going through with the divorce. Start treating the divorce proceedings as a business transaction to take your emotions out of the process when possible, and not allow the reasons for the divorce to be brought up unless absolutely necessary. There is no need to remind yourself of why you are getting a divorce during this very tough process.
Understand The Impact Of Infidelity From A Legal Perspective
You may think that being cheated on will give you the upper hand when it comes to getting divorced, but that is not always true. It's likely that you will not receive a divorce settlement that is larger due to infidelity, and it will not play a role in determining custody. One area where it will make a difference is if your spouse was actively spending money from shared accounts on the person they were having an affair with. If you can prove that these purchases were made during the affair, your lawyer may be able to request compensation for these expenses so you do not suffer a financial loss.
Contact a law firm, like the Law Office of Greg Quimby, P.C., for more help.